After burying my mom this morning, I’ve concluded people should never have to plan their parents’ funeral. When you lose someone like your mother or father, the last thing you want to do is talk to a complete stranger about the funeral arrangements. You don’t want to answer questions like: Would you prefer a metal coffin or a wood coffin? What is your mother’s favorite color? Do you think she would want to be buried in a pink coffin? You also don’t want to be presented with a billion different options for the funeral — especially when you’ve never been part of a funeral service before. Wouldn’t it be nice if a funeral service could magically plan itself?
My mom’s struggles with Alzheimer’s and dementia dominate my memories of her. It’s hard for me to come up with memories of her when she was happy. That’s why I was glad to find the photo of her below for the funeral. Not only is my mother smiling in the photo, she’s also young. I wish my mind was full of memories of mom when she was young and happy.