I might be overreacting here, but I was pissed off last Friday. The Little Princess was invited to another girly birthday party. We dropped her off at her friend’s house and was told by the birthday girl’s mom (let’s call her Butthead Mom) that the party will be over at six o’clock. We ran some errands and then went home. Right before 6 pm, we received a phone call from Butthead Mom telling us the party was running 30 minutes late. I thought it was a little strange that Butthead Mom would bother to call to tell us the party was going to end 30 minutes later than expected. After all, the party was at her house and we could just hang out there if we got there early, right?
As it turns out, Butthead Mom and another person drove the kids to an arcade. WTF? That was news to us. Butthead Mom never told us they were taking our girl anywhere. Not in the invite. Not when we dropped her off. Not when Butthead Mom called us. And not when we came to pick up our daughter. We might not have ever known if my wife didn’t notice the Little Princess’ shoes were not in the same place outside the door. She asked the Little Princess if she went outside and that’s when we found out about the trip to the arcade.
How can a parent take another person’s kid somewhere and not say anything about it? Just because I’m almost fine with dropping off my daughter for a party doesn’t mean it’s ok for someone to drive her around town without my permission. Keep in mind the Little Princess is only eight and we don’t know Butthead Mom very well. We’ve only seen Butthead Mom when she dropped off her girl at our parties and when we dropped off our daughter at their parties. If I had all the time in the world and if I wanted to torment myself, I would stay at the party and keep an eye on the Little Princess (we use to do this when she was younger).
We’re disappointed in the Little Princess too. She knows she isn’t suppose to get in a car with someone unless we tell her it’s ok. She should have called, but she didn’t. Actually, I’m not surprised she didn’t call. She’s doesn’t like to rock the boat. If all her friends hopped into a mini-van, then she’ll hop in too. She’s not the confrontational type and will never say something like: “Before you take me anywhere and possibly sell me as a slave, I need to ask my parents for permission first.”
Even though I have three kids, I’m still new to this parenting thing. So tell me, is it unusual for another parent to drive your kid somewhere without asking or telling you? We should have asked, but it never occurred to us someone would actually take off with our kid like that.
Oh yeah, we decided the Little Princess can no longer go to the Butthead Mom’s house. In the future, we also plan to ask other parents if they will be taking our kids anywhere. Maybe we should also ask if they will be handing out drugs, booze, or guns.