Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
My son is the Incredible Hulk, but in reverse. Instead of a raging beast that is released when angry, my son is normally a monster. It’s only during certain situations that the angel within emerges from the demon child.
At home, the little devil runs all over the place, climbs on things, and picks on his sisters. He does not listen and shouting loudly is his normal voice. But at school, he transforms into a little angel. According to his teacher, he is a great listener, is very sweet, plays well with other kids, and is a great helper. The first time she told me this, I thought she was talking to someone else. But no one else was near me. She was talking to me and she was talking about my son. And I’m fairly certain she wasn’t taking any drugs at the time.
My daughter is different at school too. She is nicer and more respectful. But the difference between her two personalities is not as dramatic as Spiderboy. My son isn’t a bad kid. Spiderboy is actually the most easy going of my three children. But he’s also the loudest and most hyper of my clones. I’m not sure why he’s so wild at home and so well behave at school. Sometimes I wonder if there’s a secret button that the teacher knows about that I don’t. Press it and he becomes an angel. Press it again and he turns back into a monster.
Anyone else have this problem?
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yep. same problem. i hear all the time how my two older children are “delightful” and “perfect.” i’m looking behind me to see if they’re talking to me! wouldn’t trade ‘em though as I know you wouldn’t either!
I agree. I wouldn’t trade them, but I wouldn’t mind the well-behaved version either.
My son is better behaved at school, but he still shows his goofy side a bit too much. He’s just more cranked up at home. My daughter has always been a rule-follower, even at home most of the time.
Thank goodness my son has not shown his goofy side at school. I don’t think anyone would appreciate him purposely farting next to them.
Hulk hands too big…smash!!!
We have the 2 household problem. My oldest lives with his mom…and is a handfull. At my house, he is awesome.
My little one does a great Hulk impersonation too. She sits on the coach and starts hitting it with her fists while shouting in a deep voice, “Hulk smash! Hulk smash!”
I think at school, kids don’t really know their boundaries and they’re not willing to test them around other kids. They know how far they can push their parents. It could also be pent up energy when he’s home from being so well behaved at school. You just never know.
Oh, side question— What do you do for halloween?
We decorate our house with all the Halloween clearance stuff we have accumulated. We also have a costume party the Saturday before Halloween.
My husband won’t let me have a party, I would go overboard he says. :o( Sounds like fun!
I have to go to a rehearsal dinner on halloween, but I’m not going to stay for the actual dinner so I can spend it with my kids. They’re going to be Belle and Cinderella.
What will yours be for halloween?
My oldest is going to be a blue witch. Not sure about my son. He has so many costumes that we bought on clearance in the past.
That is so funny!
Having have taught three year olds for ten years now, I can tell you that is very common. So many parents over the years have come up to me and asked what happens to their child at school. They are SOOOO different at home. They scream and whine and won’t clean up after themselves, but at school they follow directions and are polite and clean up after themselves. I just tell them they save the “good” behavior for where they feel most comfortable:home.
Tell me the truth, do you just tell parents the kids are well behave just to play mind games with us struggling parents.
Usually the kids are really well behaved. There are some I wish I could pinch their little heads off. The thing is if there is a real problem I will write them a note and ask if I could call them later. What I do hate is the little mini “conferences” that happen when a parent walks their child in and then wants to talk to me for the next 15 minutes. I try to be sociable, but my first responsibility is to the kids. That sounds harsh to the parents, but what would you rather see me doing? Me teaching and interacting with your kids, or chatting and gossiping with parents?
Well I am sure a lot parents would trade you for that problem. My little girl is to young to tell yet. So far she cries whenever she wants.
Yes, I’m glad he’s not a monster at school too. I thought for sure he would be the one that gets in trouble a lot, but so far, that’s not the case.
YES!!! Griffin is exactly the same! Dunno why. Wish I did… cos I want to know where that friggin button is on the darn boy! If you should find it….let me know!
Have not found it yet. I tried the belly button, but that just makes him laugh.
In reverse! My son is so good for me at home but is being a real toad at school. Today he was sent to the RC for his “sounds” and his daily report is usually a note about something he’s done that’s wrong. *sigh*
Hugs,
Holly
Oh no! That might be even worst than being a brat at home. Hopefully your son isn’t getting in too much trouble at school.
yeah, I always wonder why they’re better for complete strangers…
They don’t like us.
SNAP….what is it with our kids and school.every year I take the school report back and claim that they have the wrong child….I’m yet to find mine LMAO
Hopefully they’ll stay like that at school for many, many years.
Our kids are the same way and I’ve often wondered the same thing. Perhaps it is peer pressure - they don’t want to look like “babies” in front of their friends. We made sure to define what “brats” are to our kids early on, so as to try and persuade them not to go down that path. I think they also get bored quicker at home - maybe I don’t challenge them enough. Or maybe our kids are just too young to organize themselves into a “gang” against their teachers like they do with their parents. At first, I thought it was the lack of recognizable “home turf”, but after a few months of school they know their surroundings as well as they know our own house. I guess it’s better than them being monsters all the time, though.
Yes, it’s a good thing our kids are not monsters all the time. Could also be because our kids like to torment us. We’ll get even when we become grandparents.
My son does the same thing with me. He acts out with me but with other people, he’s an angel.
So far, Julia’s been an angel at school. I’m just waiting for her to get comfortable enough to start picking her nose and telling people to blow it out their ass. I figure it’s only a matter of time, but I’m going to enjoy the illusion of being the good parent for a while.
My kids don’t do that. They spread the angst equally between home and school. My oldest though has had a huge turn-around. He’s had a couple of rough years, both academically and personally (teasing, bullying which resulted in changing schools, so when we got his mid-quarter update and saw all A’s we were ecstatic. He still talks our ears off about Bionicles though…